ARGUMENTATIVE ESSAY

   TEENAGERS AND THEIR MINDS

  Over the years, teens have been following and jumping on the bandwagon, either to keep up with the trend or just totally out of curiosity. But with these videos and adult articles (SPG), some trends have seemed to gone over board. Starting from pornography, cybersex, sexual jokes, and leading it to teenage pregnancy. Young people report using pornography as a form of sex education. Qualitative studies show, for example, that some young women are under pressure to the use of pornography by their male partners. (Megan S.C Lim 2017). 

    Based on my friend's experience, She was touched and sexually harrased from a cousin of hers, without her consent. She felt disgusted by her own body afterwards. She had never felt such uncomfortable feeling in her life. This is an example of a situation whereas a young teenager has lost control of his desires. It was very traumatizing experience for a girl who is conservative. 

    (Wallmyr, G., Wellin, C. 2006) Male participants reported that the most common reason to watch pornography was excitement and masturbation. Female participants reported watching pornography only out of curiosity. 

    Which means that most of teenagers, girls and boys have been watching pornography to please themselves. Them watching porn with a partner would possibly lead them to something a little bit inappropriate for their ages. 

    With marriage, people or teens think that marriage life and television shows are actually the same. More Filipinos watch movies about infidelity relations, such as: The mistress, No Other Woman, A Secret Affair and etc. are shown almost one after another. Therefore, it is normal to have such an incident. Moreover, these incidents have been glorified in movies, soap opera, romance novels, and even television shows of all kinds (Cogtas 2015).

    Teenagers have been watching movies with contents like this. They may have the mindset to cheat on their partners  in the future, and make a scene to think that it would be fun and more drama to bring into their lives. 

    My cousin would usually tell me "what if's" about her life in the future since she has a boyfriend. She may seem to reflect herself and her partner in some other movies and think that, that is how they might end up in the future or when she gets married with someone. 

     Movies like this would cause or bring fights to other couples. They will have doubts that their partners have been doing the same thing the movie is showing them. My aunts, grandmother and my mother would gossip about their husbands and compare their lives to some other dramas they see on movies that involves cheating and having secret affairs. 

    Teenagers have also been into drinking, eating junk, smoking, going on a diet in an unhealthy way and many more. Some say that it's a way of them to get out of "reality" and most of them are depressed and stressed out. 

   About social media, negative use includes sharing dangerous behaviors, cyberbullying, and self-negative comparisons with others. Young people like "oversharing" (frequent sharing of updates and too much personal information), "stressful posts" (sharing negative updates with social networks), "discovering trigger posts" and etc. (Radovic 2017) 

    Me myself had experienced being exposed on social media for about a week without giving it a break. I had only been scrolling and texting my friends and asking them to play with me, hang out with me and more. It gave me bad benefits and I think I had been depressed for quite awhile and I gave it a shot and decided to drink with some other friends and decided not to go to school daily. 

    Because during my overly exposed to social media days, I haven't been eating, and my head would hurt because I don't sleep due to overuse of social media. What I had been seeing on social medias, I would do and do to other people knowing that it would hurt them but since I just do it because of social media and out of curiosity, I decided to give it a shot even though I have hurt someone. 

    So it proves that teenagers nowadays follow what they see on social medias, movies, novels and more.  This generation, teenagers tend to overthink allot with things that they hear and do something without hesitation.